Welcome back, Lifter Uppers! In this powerful and laughter-filled episode of the Cancer and Comedy Podcast, co-hosts Deb Krier and Dr. Brad Miller are joined by acclaimed author, journalist, and humorist C.J. Grace, whose remarkable journey through breast cancer and infidelity has inspired thousands worldwide. C.J. is the author of the books My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity and The Adulterer's Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not. This episode dives deep into coping strategies, the real-life absurdities of navigating cancer, and how humor, hope, and community can help you turn the grim into a grin.

Episode Summary

From the get-go, the episode sets a lighthearted tone with signature "bad dad jokes" designed to remind listeners that even in the midst of adversity, laughter is not only possible but essential. Deb, Brad, and C.J. then delve into how each has used humor to process and endure the challenges that come with a cancer diagnosis. C.J. shares her own double diagnosis of breast cancer—first in 2007 and again in 2014—while simultaneously coping with the emotional trauma of her husband's infidelity. C.J. candidly reveals how these overlapping hardships became a catalyst for growth, insight, and ultimately, a new sense of purpose in helping others thrive through adversity.

C.J. reflects on the importance of seeing the absurdity in difficult situations, citing both her British background and her lifelong love of Monty Python as influences on her approach to finding laughter amid hardship. The conversation moves on to practical strategies C.J. developed for surviving and thriving through personal crises, covering everything from crafting a supportive community and mentors to the healing power of comedy, mindfulness, and self-care.

Listeners will also hear about C.J.'s extensive research into breast cancer, including her controversial exploration of the potential link between wearing bras and increased cancer risk, and how she encourages women to make informed health choices (including flinging their bras in celebration of freedom where possible!).

Key Takeaways

Laughter is a Powerful Medicine
Humor, even dark or absurd humor, can be an anchor during difficult times. As C.J. shares, watching comedies, finding reasons to laugh, and being willing to joke about one’s own situation can provide real relief and perspective—even during the darkest days of treatment and personal struggle. Don’t underestimate the power of a "bad dad joke" or a well-timed Monty Python reference to lift your spirits!

The Importance of Community and Confidants
Surviving adversity, especially something as life-altering as cancer and personal betrayal, is not something that should be done alone. C.J. emphasizes finding mentors, confidants, and friends (regardless of gender) who can offer empathy and perspective. Building and maintaining a support system is vital, and it’s never too late to reconnect with old friends or welcome new ones into your circle.

Mindfulness and Living in the Present
Mindfulness—focusing on the present moment rather than ruminating on the past or fearing the future—is a valuable tool for anyone facing adversity. C.J. suggests practices like her "chocolate mindfulness exercise" to ground oneself, and encourages everyone to let go of regrets and worries to focus on what’s good and possible in the here and now.

Love and Accept Your Body, Scars and All
Both C.J. and Deb discuss how body image changes after cancer treatments such as mastectomy, and how these changes can become a source of shame or pride depending on your approach. Embracing your body, naming your prosthetics (like Deb’s Lucy and Ethel!), and owning your journey can be deeply empowering.

Adversity Can Be a Launchpad for a Better Life
Despite (or because of) what feels like being "shattered," C.J. affirms that it's possible to emerge stronger, wiser, and more fulfilled. Past crises can be stepping stones to a better future, provided one resists the trap of victimhood and instead seeks growth, joy, and new opportunities.

Links & Resources

C.J. Grace Official Website: cjauthor.com

Cancer and Comedy Community: cancerandcomedy.com/follow

Leave a Voicemail/Share Your Story: cancerandcomedy.com/voicemessage

C.J. Grace YouTube (for Chocolate Mindfulness & More): Search "CJ Grace Author" on YouTube or directly follow links on her website.

Books by C.J. Grace:

My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity

The Adulterer's Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not
Both are available on Amazon.